Genesis 2.18 - The LORD God said, It is not good for a man to be alone; I will help him like him.
The Lord Himself, when He declared that all creation was very good (Genesis 1:31), decreed that something was wanting to man. This one was not complete. If he remained alone, he suffered from a disability. He needed help, a vis-à-vis, to live properly. This establishes a fundamental fact: the human being can not be self-sufficient and he needs at least one other, making him a social being.
Complementarity can only be considered if we become aware of our need to be complemented.As long as we remain in the illusion that we do not need anyone, we will not be able to understand the absolute necessity of finding our complement. But before going further on the complementarity in the ministry, I would like to dwell on the couple.
Unfortunately, the man chooses too often his companion according to the physical attraction.Sin has completely reversed priorities. The first selection criterion for his spouse should be this complementarity in the mind. That is to say, this osmosis, this spiritual symbiosis to be able to accomplish the why we were created. I think there is only one person of the opposite sex in the universe to come to this unit. One or one is flesh of my flesh, bone of my bones. Paul tells us in Ephesians 5.29: "For no one hath hated his own flesh; but he nourishes and cares for it, as Christ does for the Church. " Finding THE person who has been created for us guarantees that love will never turn into hatred; to hate one's own flesh being an impossibility.
When this unity of spirits exists, the personalities will be able to shape themselves in contact with each other to join more and more. The physical agreement will come only last but it will seal forever the couple in this mystery: the two will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
I'm here for the youngest: do not let your senses dictate the choice of your spouse. Physical attraction will never make a strong marriage. Even if your personalities match well, if you lack this spiritual unity, you risk to embark on the path of tears. May the Lord give you wisdom and discernment.
Ecclesiastes 4.9 - Two are better than one, because they get a good salary from their work.
In divine arithmetic, the complement is not an addition but an exponent. Leviticus 26.8 tells us, "Five of you will chase a hundred, and a hundred of you will chase ten thousand, and your enemies will fall before you by the sword." Our calculation would be 5 = 100, 100 = 2,000, but God does not calculate that way.
Finding one's complement will greatly advance the work of our hands. Many ministries see few results of the work they provide because they have not yet been persuaded by this truth. When the Lord communicates a vision, the questions that come to mind are: when, how, where, Lord?Few of us ask this essential question: with whom?
Paul had to recognize that Apollos had been his complement for the foundation of the Corinthian church: "I planted, Apollos watered, but God did grow ... He who plants and the one who waters are equal ... (1 Corinthians 3.6 and 8). Let us remember this: Paul and Apollos are equal, it is the very basis of complementarity. When we ask the question "With whom is Lord?We do not seek subordinates but one who is our equal. Here, there is no notion of command but of interdependence.
To come back to the couple, if we are married to the right person, our partner should be the first complement of the ministry. For having forgotten it, many servants have fallen. Neglect of the spouse's potential is probably the number one cause of stinging spiritual defeats.
In our society, the confession of the absolute necessity of being two may seem like weakness, yet God encourages us by his Word with a promise: to receive a good salary for his work.
Ephesians 5.21 - Subjects to one another in the fear of Christ.
The Greek "hupotasso" translating the verb "to submit" has two connotations. One is military: it means "to subordinate, obey", the other, which is not military, means "voluntary attitude to give oneself, to cooperate by assuming responsibilities". As I understand it, it is a person who has his own authority and responsibility, but who submits himself to another person in a definite setting, like the Lord Jesus who submits to the ministry of John the Baptist during his baptism.
Complementarity can not be envisaged in a framework of subordination. The subordinate only executes the orders of the person who directs him. A ministry does not have complementarity with its subordinates, who only implement their own decisions. For a ministry to benefit from its complement, it must voluntarily submit to it as part of this complementarity.
Paul has often used the image of the body to speak of the Church and this image can speak to us. A hand is able to do many things but in some situations, it needs the other hand. To applaud for example, or to lift a heavy object, or to hold a person securely. Both hands have their own abilities and somehow their independence, but in some circumstances they need to complement each other by submitting to one another.
To come back to the couple, the complementarity of the two partners can only be considered in this light. The couple will never be able to reach their potential for action if the relationship is based on a dominant and a subordinate. Mutual submission is the key to building a strong home.
Complementarity can only be lived if we are aware of the need to be complemented and if we voluntarily agree to submit, to a certain extent, to our complement.
Luke 10: 1 After this the Lord appointed another seventy disciples, and sent them two and two before him in all the cities and places where he was to go.
The Greek word for two to two is "duo". The Lord sent duos of servants into his harvest. There is a beautiful illustration of the complementarity in the image of a duet.
If you take two singers, so that a duet is possible, it is necessary that the two singers sing the same melody and that they know it thoroughly. The duo is also possible if each singer sings his own voice. Finally, when mixing the recording, the two voices must be heard in the same way, one can not cover the other.
When two departments complement each other, it is essential that they are in full agreement on the vision and that they have a deep knowledge of it. That they follow together the same "tempo" of action and that they clearly understand the role of the other. Each ministry must remain in its potential and stick to what God has given it. Finally, leadership must be shared equally, one can not dominate the other.
There is in humans a propensity to take the lead. Many Christian tandems have failed because of this phenomenon. If we do not let the other member of the duo speak freely, our partnership is at a loss. Complementarity requires humility. Let me tell you that the thought of a unique leadership is far from New Testament thinking. It is only at this price that a duo of ministries can be effective, and how effective!
At the risk of repeating myself, you do not just need singers. You need another one to give "volume" to the song the Lord has asked you to sing. If we live fully the richness of these duets, we can consider the possibility of living a trio, a quartet or even a quintet, which brings us to Ephesians 4.11.
Ephesians 4.11 - And he gave some as apostles, others as prophets, others as evangelists, others as pastors and teachers.
We come to our "quintet" of ministries. In our passage from Ephesians, we see that these five kinds of ministry all have a purpose and a common purpose. Their "specifications" could be summarized in three main directives:
1. Perfect the saints.
2. To bring us all to the unity of faith and the knowledge of Christ
3. Coordinate the proper functioning of the body.
But to achieve this goal, the five departments are complementary. This heavy task is not devolved to a kind of ministry but to the five. A single ministry can not do it, even two different departments that work together can not do it. The five departments must work together. They need each other to form the body, the body being the church with a large E and not a local community. The Lord Jesus has only one body, made up of disciples of all nations who are scattered in all kinds of Christian denominations.
The book of Acts gives us some insights into this ministerial complementarity: the apostles who come to help Philip the Evangelist (Acts 8), the prophets, the doctors and the apostles who serve together (Acts 13) ... In a general way we can say that the different ministries fit together to perfect the building of the churches. They were respectful to each other, fully convinced of the richness of this complementarity.
Beloved servants of God, the Church of the 21st century urgently needs to find this complementarity. The body of Christ is frail, dislocated and fragile. Combine our gifts, our talents and our anointings so that the Church of the last times is well built, united and strong.
Good reflection !
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